Thursday, October 15, 2015

A Letter To My Second Son, The Middle Child.

 Dear Nathan,

You're now an active and cheerful 15 month old baby. Right now, you're the youngest in the family but in 4 months' time, you will soon become a big brother. :) Your Papa and I can't wait for you to take on the role as a big brother to your soon-to-be-born lil baby sister. And in 4 months time, your position in the family will be from "the youngest one" to "the middle one".

Let me tell you a lil secret: You are already so special to me as "the second child" because I, too, am a second child. As such, it's a special bond shared between us. ;) As a middle child, I know there may be times when you may feel a little lost, confused and less important. And when you feel that way, just know that you are never ever less important or precious that any of your other siblings.

Speaking from personal experience, there will be times when you'll get bossed around by your elder sibling who seems to know so much more than you. Growing up as the second child, and with an elder sibling who was taller and wayyy smarter than me, I didn't have the courage to speak up and stand out when I wanted to. I also couldn't find my voice when I felt that I have been wronged. I never want you to experience and go through what I did when I was much younger. Dear Nathan, you must find your voice and speak up when you want to, especially when you've been wronged. As your mummy, I promise to make sure that you will have a chance to speak up and stand out, just like everyone else. Don't silence your opinions and inner thoughts. I hope you'll always have the courage to speak up and stand firm on what you think is right and wrong.

Last but not least, please do not compare your milestones and achievements with your siblings. Do not feel ashamed if you seem to learn something slower than your siblings, and do not become arrogant if you learn something faster than your other siblings. Each of you will learn and do things differently; faster or slower, and that is completely fine with your Papa and me. Remember, you are you and there is no one alive who is you-er than you. :)

Always remember Nathan, whether you are our second, first or tenth child, our love for you is just as much as the love we have towards your elder brother and little sister. You are wonderfully made and a miracle gift to us. Your Papa and I love you very very much and our love for you will never lessen once you become the second child. It will only grow bigger day by day. I'm still so excited to watch you grow up (you're only 15 months old!) and I'm so happy to be a part of your life. :)

I love you forever and always,
Your Mummy.

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